February 8, 2019

So, this little girl at school has been burning to tell this boy that she likes him. It is consuming her every thought. I have been there and I think a lot of us have been there. I told you I forewarned her against it, but she has been persistent in her desire to tell him.

As we were leaving gym class the other day, sounds like I was in gym with them. I escort them to and from for liability reasons, (OH the world we live in today). She badgered me to tell her it was okay for her to tell him she liked him. When another little girl appeared alongside us and said, “Listen to Ms. Holzman. DO NOT TELL HIM.” The girl chomping at the bit to confide her love in the boy said, “Why do you say that?” It came rolling out of our mouths in unison. “The minute you tell him. He will stop liking you.” I know…I should have bit my tongue, but it came rolling out of my mouth...the funny part was that it came rolling out of the mouth of a much younger girl’s mouth as well. Is this something us gals are intuitively born with? We just know…or at least most of us do? The rest of us learn it the hard way?

Well, despite the unified front to stop her. She told him at the end of the day yesterday. Today, she spent all day repeatedly saying to me, “I should have listened to you! Why didn’t I listen to you! I regret it so much!” And all I could say was, “I am so, so sorry! I know! We have ALL been there!!! If you are a girl, a woman chances are you have had this experience.” She smiled and giggled at the fact that she was not alone. However, my heart broke for her. I didn’t want her to tell him, because I didn’t want her to feel that pain so many of us have felt. I know it is a part of life, but you just so desperately want to spare someone that pain if possible, because you know it.

James Taylor sings SHOWER THE PEOPLE YOU LOVE WITH LOVE”, but there’s a lyrical line in it where he swoons, ‘The minute you tell someone how you feel, you begin to feel them leave…’ (So, this apparently happens to men too!) It is why I told that little girl to not tell the boy she liked him. But and it is a big BUT…if it is the right person…they won’t leave. I can be jaded about Valentine’s Day, and about MY romantic life, and men, but I truly believe the right person stays…

See ya tomorrow.